THE QUALITY OF A CHRISTIAN WIFE AND THAT OF A SINGLE LADY

The breakthrough we have experienced and still experiencing in the area of science and technology  in the 21st century has somehow left in our mind as a people, male and female alike, something  I will want to deliberately call a misconception rather than civilization as we have being often told to called it. For the sake of the topic before me. I will like to direct my thoughts and expressions to the female gender of God’ creation as it relate to them being a wife (A lady married to a man), and a single lady (A woman free from the covenant and commitment of marriage). 

It’s no news that due to the advancement and civilization in our society today most present day married women wishes to continue in their marriage with their husbands but yet wants to be free from the commitment of the institution called marriage.  Most of them wants to be seen posing in their white dresses (Wedding gowns), but yet refuse to keep up with the responsibilities of a  wife.  As a matter of fact, most present day ladies wouldn't have a problem having a wedding ceremony of their dream just for the excitement of being called (Mrs.) Even if they know deep down in their heart that they don’t really want to be with the so called man they re married to.

On the other hand, some single women find it strange to stay single as they would really want to due to the stigma our current society has placed on being single as a lady. They struggle to believe that being single as a lady is cool and that  it has benefits.  And because of the lack of celebration and acceptance of single hood as women in our current society most single ladies has joined themselves
to men who  literally does nothing, but exploits abuse and eventually derail their destiny. Spiritually and also physically.  

Wives, submit to your own husband, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18. (See 1 Peter 3:1, Ephesians 5:22). Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things. 1 Timothy 3:11. ( see 1 Timothy 4:7, 2 Timothy 2:16, Act 5:6-10, 1 Corinthians 7:2-10, Job 2:9, Proverb 12:4, Proverb 18:22, Proverb 19:13)

 Qualities

Before I start parading these qualities before us can I at least give you a quick background of a Christian wife?  A Christian wife is not that woman / sister, who was born, raised and got married in the church. As a matter of truth, being  born again as a wife doesn't make you a Christian wife. A wife could be born again, speak in tongues and prophesy and even occasionally or regularly cast out demons from another oppressed individual and still fall short of the mark of being a Christian wife.

A Christian wife therefore is that woman irrespective of   age, complexion, size or societal status who practice the principles and applies the scriptures in her dealings with firstly her husband, and then her kids, and  everyone around her within the perimeters of her marriage.. 

To put it direct to you; a Christian wife act and does not assume. See 1 Timothy 5:9-10   

  Submission:

According to Colossians 3:18 one quality of a Christian wife is the willingness to submit to her own husband as unto the Lord.  “As unto the Lord” could be translated as; submitting to him even when his decisions don’t make sense to you as a wife as long as it’s not against God’s ways. See Act 5:6-10.  Submission is not an easy thing to do especially when you don’t have confidence in your husband’s decisions as a wife, due to past experiences. But all the same as a Christian wife it would do you great good to submit and pray to God about the issue than to refuse to submit. A wise man once said to a lady struggling to submit to her husband due to his consistency in making bad decisions for the family;  submitting to your husband is like getting out of the way so God can have a better view of him, and give him a good knock for taking your act of submission for granted. 

  Reverence/ Respect : Their wives must be reverent … 1 Timothy 3:11

Another outstanding quality of a Christian wife is her reverence for her husband and others. As a Christian wife, the quality of your reference for God is made visible in the amount of reverence and respect you genuinely give to your husband before people and in private. No matter how anointed, industrious, intelligent and beautiful you are as a Christian wife, you can never worship God rightly if you fail to respect and show reverence to your husband. Whether he is rich or poor, dark or light in complexion it makes no difference. 

A wife who fails to respect his husband would not find it hard to disrespect others. Any Christian woman who is fond of disrespecting others is guilty of lack of reverence for her own husband in private. No matter how much she tries to pretend to respect him in public.

 Temperate And A Faithfulness : An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones Proverb 12:4 ( See Proverb 19:13)

Nothing makes Christian women standouts among other women like having a good temperament. As a Christian wife one great gift you would ever give to your husband is your ability to manage your temperament. Nothing embarrasses a man like a wife   with a very bad temperament. Always fighting, involving in one scandal after another. When there is conflict at your work ‘or business place you are sure to be at the center of it. Men generally see  women with  bad temperaments as  those who can not be trusted. A Christian wife with a good temperament is like a magnet to her husband. A man finds it easy to confide in a wife with a calm and stable temperament. Men find solace and draws strength and courage from a wife with a great temperament. To an unfaithful man, a woman with a controlled temperament is like a coal of fire heaped on his conscience. Her presence brings him to the judgment seat of his conscience always.  And being faithful is a non negotiable quality of a Christian wife. Faithfulness to your husband, kids and your vision as a team is like cold water offered to a man   wondering in a sun scorching desert. A wife who is faithful to her husband and house hold never fails to win the trust, admiration of her husband and kids. A lady or wife with a good temperament and faithfulness towards her husband or God is a lady of excellence single or married.

 The word crown speaks of wisdom. And this qualifies her to be named among the wise.

The Quality of a single sister

In conclusion I would want to make it very clear to you that the qualities of a Christian single lady and that of Christian wife are the same. And my reason for this conclusion is seen in the fact that every Christian single lady is a potential Christian wife.  When all Christian single ladies understand this truth the temptation to wait to be married before displaying some of the qualities of A Christian wife discussed in this article will not be necessary. 

 Marriage do not create in us, male and female alike new qualities we have not learned and practiced why living as singles.  But on the contrary marriage amplifies the qualities we already possess. Therefore as a Christian single lady who is searching for scriptural principles in regards to the qualities mentioned here. I will advise you to learn and master within the context of your single-hood the very same scriptures and qualities discussed in this article for determining a Christian wife. i.e.  Submission to God in every aspect of your life is one good quality that distinguishes you as a Christian single. Being faithful to God, having reverence for God and respect for the people around you, old and young. As a Christian  single lady your level of faithfulness towards God is directly proportional to the morality of the life you  lead both in private and in the public.  Therefore, I say to you today, you don’t need to wait to be married before you start developing and living out these qualities in your life. 

God bless you!